| Author: Sunil Saharan 22 Oct 2009 Member Level: Gold Points : 5 (Rs. 3) Voting Score: 0 |
Hello Friend,
This is a very common situation most of the peoples face in family life. I think taking a side is not a good thinking. If the environment is in a bad situation I mean to say that there are many misunderstanding in our family between two persons then you should try to sort it our instead to taking one's side. If you are going to one side it means you are making situation more complex and this is on way a good condition. So always try to solve the situation by understanding both persons. This will definitely results in a happy life. You may face some problem while doing so but finally it is the best and efficient solution.
With best regards,
Sunil Saharan
working for an ideal and peaceful society.
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| Author: N K Ravishankara 23 Oct 2009 Member Level: Diamond Points : 5 (Rs. 3) Voting Score: 0 |
It is a common issue now-a-days, it is better to stay neutral for some time if the situation is not so worst, when one feel if it is going out of hand, then the matter has to be taken seriously.
The question of defending a side will not arise, one should study broadly the root and cause for such situation, have talk in front of all, sometimes one may not get the clear picture if the discussion will be made in absence, most of the times talk will solve some problems, if not one should try to convince either one, then that is not of use, then concrete decision has to be taken.
Some problems will not get solved by taking advice, as it is their own life, decisions has to be taken by the same person who is having problem.
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| Author: shyam sunder malhotra 25 Oct 2009 Member Level: Silver Points : 1 Voting Score: 0 |
The woman who is proved to be good wife can only be the good parent.
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| Author: Gayathri Krishnan 28 Oct 2009 Member Level: Silver Points : 6 (Rs. 4) Voting Score: 0 |
Where does the question of loyalty come in between family members? Loyalty and love go side by side and should cuddle up the house wirh all the members inside like a cocoon and should not pare like a knife.Be loyal to both husband and child.Both of them need your support as much as you do theirs.
If your husband speaks ill of your child,chide him gently and not in front of your child for he(son) will take a lesson from you and start speaking ill of your husband believing that he has your support. Similarly if your child finds your husband irritating,tell him that he should never speak badly of his own father.Learn to stick up for both of them.
You as the wife and mother should be the pillar for husband and child to lean on. Don't ever doubt your role.
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| Author: [Anonymous] 28 Oct 2009 Member Level: Bronze Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
I is more important to be a good parent to be a good wife because not being a goog wife just affect a single person but not being a good mother can effect the whole society.
But I don't think this situation had ever come or will come because the woman who is a good wife will definitly posses all the qualities of a good mother
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| Author: Gyandeep Kaushal 29 Oct 2009 Member Level: Gold Points : 5 (Rs. 3) Voting Score: 0 |
I must say this to you Sanghamitra that though people say that being a good wife is more important because it is your husband who has presented you the gift as your child. Without him, your child would not have been with you, so people say that being a good spouse is of more importance, but I think that being a good mother, a good parent is equally important.
It is the mother's name which the son calls out for the first time - maa. And from that day, the emotions of a just wife is added by emotions of a mother. I think you should realize that your children are a part of your life. It is you who has brought him/her to the Earth and it's your part to take care of him/her well.
I think that becoming a good spouse, as well as a good mother is the best answer to your query, however sometimes some women love their children so much that they even tend to detach themselves from their husbands so that they can take care of their offspring well. So it is upon you.
Regards.
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| Author: anudeep 01 Nov 2009 Member Level: Silver Points : 4 (Rs. 1) Voting Score: 0 |
Hi,
i understand your situation.
You must give your love to both of them.
Husband is the first and best child of a woman.
She must treat him like her own child and then there would be no scope for such questions.
And the child born to you, she is the symbol of love and happiness of you both.
So i wish you all be happy and give your love to both of them till your last breath.
Take care..
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| Author: sharmila 05 Nov 2009 Member Level: Bronze Points : 4 (Rs. 2) Voting Score: 0 |
hi friend,
Both are important.But sometimes it happens that you have to stand for one. You have to see the situation and the problem. care should be taken that you do not disturbe both of their feelings and create a complex in them that you are not caring. If your child is younger and cant understand the situation, you can male your spouse understand the problem and be on the child's side. But if you have grown up children , whom can very well understand then you can make both of them understand the problem and stand on the side which is practical enough.
But more than this if you can show more love and understand to your husband and show yourself to him as an open book , then your husband will understand you in anykind of situation and be on your side , no matter what happens. Children are your blood , but when it is the husband who is there for till end of your life.
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| Author: Meesha 06 Nov 2009 Member Level: Silver Points : 10 (Rs. 6) Voting Score: 0 |
Hi Sanghamitra,
I can understand your situation as this complexity arises in almost all the relations we maintain whether as a daughter, a sister, a mother, a wife, a friend , a daughter-in-law or a sister-in-law.
Relations have have always been very complex to deal with but the easiest way out is to BE YOURSELF and BE A GOOD HUMAN BEING.
When you are TRUE TO YOUSELF and you are a good person , you will naturally be able to take all your responsibilities in a well-balanced stride.
The most crucial point here is to be NEUTRAL towards all. Being partial either towards your husband or your kids shall always result in undue confusions.
When we are living different relations, all of them shall require our time and energies as also our love and warmth.
Here, you are required to be able to spend quality and equal time with both your husband and your kids, listen to both of them, shower your love and warmth on both of them.
Your husband came first in your life and he is your lifepartner, so he shall always be your priorty. But, you kids are also your responsibility and require all your attention in the first place.
Therefore, you can not neglect either.
In any situation of taking either ones side be sure that you are not biased and handle that situation with patience while trying to explain the reason of your decision to both the parties in a peaceful manner.
It is of utmost importance that you should hold the confidence of both of them in you intact.
I know it is difficult but have patience and be honest in your manner of dealing with the things in a well balanced state of mind and emotions.And the results shall automatically be good.
Wishing you all the best in your family life.
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| Author: Revathi.G 07 Nov 2009 Member Level: Silver Points : 2 Voting Score: 0 |
hello madam
In my view every women should be a good wife as well as good mother.But, when a situation of this kind arises they should be on the side of their husband,because he is the only person who will be with her life long.
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